Have you ever experienced the feeling of being perfect, or having the feeling that everything is perfect around you? What is perfect? is it defined by some law? is it defined by god? or merely a phrase designed by humans to the thing or person or environment which gives them the utmost happiness.
In life nothing is permanent. Friends, family, happiness or sorrow. If perfect defined by humans is a state of everything being in order and correct without any flaw then why does change occur? Why is it that change ruins this thin line between being perfect and imperfect? Probably god would know the answer, but again there are people who do not believe in the existence god. So for those people to understand this beautiful creation, let me explain a very common, but unheard relation which each one of us go through in our everyday lives at every moment.
God has designed us humans in such a way that to get any sort of happiness or to gain pleasure, we first need to go through the dark side, which is pain. As a friend once explained to me “you know what, in this life, in which we live, we cannot attain the feeling of being satisfied till the time we experience the pain of not being satisfied“. His words echoing in my mind, inspired me to explain this simple relation between pain and pleasure.
I’m sure you must have heard the term ‘Marginal Utility’ which stated that the more you consume a thing the lesser you want to consume more of it. This is directly related to the relation of pain and pleasure. Life is such that one cannot feel the pleasure of having something till the time he does no got through the pain of not having that something.
Coming back to the ‘perfect’ world, in life as I said everything changes, joy and sorrow are a cycle. If something was perfect, then it was in between the thin line of joy and sorrow. Probably at such a level, one would be confused whether he was feeling happy or sad.
We humans today are so greedy that we want to be in the middle of joy and sorrow, which we humans have termed to be the ‘Perfect’ life. But no one can break the cycle of happiness and sorrow, which god has created. If pain is the path to happiness, then it is that way, you cannot experience the joys of life without going through pain. It is against the law of life, which no human can bend nor break. The people who try to be perfect are the ones who remain unsatisfied all their life. Yes it is good to be the best at what you do, with all dedication and by giving your heart and soul in what you do. But attempting to be perfect is something which is just not possible, it only depresses ones mind of something that it has not achieved what it wanted to. No one in this life nor the coming life can define perfect or say ‘look this is perfect’.
Talking about Indian movies, Bollywood is in every Indians heart and soul. Each and every movie that has ever been on screen has touched every Indians heart, and somewhere down the line every Indian tries to relate themselves to the movies they watc. Movies take you into the world of being ‘Perfect’ which is so envied by every single person sitting in that theatre watching that film pass by their eyes, leaving a permanent mark in their heart and mind that ‘why can’t we have a life like this? Why can’t we have a hero who can thrash multiple people at a time like our own Mr.Rajnikanth, who can be as strong as the Bollywood muscular icon John Abraham and who can sing and dance like the playboy Ranbir kapoor? At one point of time even every guy wishes that “Shit man why can’t I be as strong as him? Why can’t I impress people the way he can? why can’t I do a lot of things like other guys on screen did?”
But as you know all this is all too perfect to exist in real life. When reality hits back, all these expectations are the ones that turn into sorrow and depress the human soul that why didn’t god make us perfect? Greed in the form of desperation comes into us and we forget the good things that we have been given and the beautiful people that are there in it. We run behind the ‘Perfect’ everything, just to realize in the end that we have nothing remaining in our live. Never keep expectations from anyone or anything. Never envy other people or things. Be happy in what you have and try to achieve the things in life that will make you happy, and in turn do not forget the ones who have helped you climb that trembling ladder, in times of sorrow and in times of joy. Cause they may not be perfect, nor the dream person you ever wished for, but they are the ones who help you achieve your dreams, turn them to reality and sacrifice everything for your happiness.
Hope is something that stops the human mind from entering into the cycle of joy and sorrow. But in the end, reality is that without pain there can be no feeling of satisfaction & hope, expectations and being perfect are just terms in minds of the humans that try to deceive this law.
But let me end with a perfect statement: “This law is designed by the perfect almighty in this perfect world, in which nothing can be perfect!!”